Reviews are weird things for theatre makers.

Reviews are weird things for theatre makers. We give them an oversized space in our brain partly because they become (if we are “lucky” enough to gain one) the comment of record. Partly - we must admit - from some human sin of vanity. There are few pieces of journalism I remember over the years, and perhaps to my dismay, theatre reviews are some of them! I think on this as Arifa Akbar - now chief theatre critic at the Guardian - wrote on how her opinion on a play changed over time.*


In 2003, I watched one of my first plays, Lost in Peru, almost every single night and if you count the rehearsals this probably took viewings over 40 times which eclipsed the viewing of everyone else, even the director. (The actors counting differently.) Performed at Camden People’s Theatre with the sound of traffic drifting through.


On one level, without the play, I would not have met the love of my life (who came to watch the play), it also impacted at least some of the audience who came to see it, taking them places and challenging them to think about matters (in this case torture survivors, also love) they had never thought about in such ways.  This is probably the better measure (and not a measure we can really count), if we should or can measure this form of art at all; and also the development of the artists involved (for instance, designer theatre maker, Mamoru Ichiguru, actor Lucy Ellinson, director,  Sarah Levinsky, who have all gone on to create extraordinary art). But, the play’s most notable written record is a 2 star review in the Guardian by Lyn Gardner. You can read it still*. Why on earth do I remember this, 19 years later?  And am I still  the person she wrote of:

“But, goodness, it is great to see a young writer reaching out beyond his own experience.” 

Perhaps, she reached the truth of it, as I am certainly still reaching out although no longer young.


I think I watched the play so many times for many reasons. I am/was fascinated by the art of live performance, how it changes with audience, performers, time and yourself. How - even as the writer - I discovered new aspects to my own work. Do visual artists ever speak about finding the same - a painting revealing new insights to them as they view their own work over time? And because, underlying I sensed I might never produce theatre work again [I have an intense “day job” managing pension fund money]. And certainly never see this work again.


I was incorrect on not making theatre as in 2007, I adapted a Noh play, won a prize and had Nakamitsu performed at the Gate Theatre.  Here I remember, to the positive, Sam Marlowe’s review* in the Times which probably remains my “best” review still with the quote:

“Rare and Riveting”

Although blogger Travis Seifman* probably produced the most insightful review* [Travis has now been blogging 20 over years, and thus is one of many archives of lovely insightful essays hidden on the interweb] and my blogging friends, Westend Whingers, one of the more fun reviews*.


Nakamitsu sold out and probably touched perhaps 500 to 1000 people maximum. On one level, making fringe theatre a minor art, although quite possibly the impact it had on some of those people may have been great. I reflect that now a single podcast episode* I make is likely heard by more people than who will ever see Nakamitsu.


Marlowe and Gardner are still reviewing, and I am sure artists are still remembering. I happen still to be making theatre! My work still plays to tiny audiences. Thinking Bigly: How We Die has been seen by 80 people [and in some elliptical fate was performed at Camden People’s Theatre* where Lost in Peru was shown - but this time minus the traffic sounds], but I’m told has heavily impacted some.  I may only perform it a handful of times more, or maybe never. At least, I feel I am almost over never having a critic see it. 

The record of note will be in the thoughts and dreams of others.


Below, Sam Marlowe’s review in the Times, as no longer on the internet except in archive.

Arifa Akbar on changing her mind on a play: https://www.theguardian.com/stage/2022/may/03/theatre-criticism-views-change-and-so-do-plays

Travis Seifman blog: https://chaari.wordpress.com/2011/05/12/nakamitsu/

You will see a slice of Japan if you follow Travis, and discover ideas and art you never knew.

Lyn Gardner’s 2 star review of Lost in Peru: https://www.theguardian.com/stage/2003/apr/14/theatre.artsfeatures1

WestEnd Whingers review of Nakamitsu (in general don’t get friends to review your work, I think!): https://westendwhingers.wordpress.com/2007/06/08/review-nakamitsu-gate-theatre-notting-hill/

(last review by Phil was Dec 2020, I hope one of the last blogs of the golden age of theatre blogging still goes on…)

Bigly at CPT in March 2022, 19 years after Lost in Peru: https://cptheatre.co.uk/whatson/Thinking-Bigly-How-We-Die

Podcasts: https://www.thendobetter.com/podcast

Very Short Stories

Mini Sketch. Been thinking about Lydia Davis. I’ve always loved the short form and more experimental form but only recently have been reading Lydia Davis. This is one very short story, her first version and last version. I’m reading her book of essays. Recommended food for thought for writers and those interested in writer craft. (Amazon link to book)


He ordered truffle, wild mushroom and rare breed sausage sourdough pizza, but to exclude the sausage to make the pizza vegetarian. The waitress at intervals was keen for us to order more. I asked what one things would you change? This is a sustainability dinner. The answers. A global price for carbon. Investments in womens education. The food nutrition obesity challenge. What do you gain for travelling to Mars? Not the destination. All the inventions needed for the journey, we hope. We hope. We finish the glass of Italian red wine.


She arrived by bus. We meandered. Two and three quarters circuits around the city park. A steady stream of dark suited sharply dressed grey haired couples and singles pass by. We can not figure out who has died. The sun reflected off her pale make-up. We drank fizzy apple juice. She ate an ice cream. We talked. We spoke of dementia, effective altruism, writing deadlines and pronouns. When you can not understand you have repeated yourself two and three quarter times. The sadness of forgetting. Those writing deadlines. We leave by taxi.

How To Ask Good Questions

On podcasting. In order to have an in-depth conversation with a virtual stranger but a public writer, I decided I’d have to read/listen to their works. This caused me to examine their writings more deeply with a view to asking what I then could not understand further or what I thought was particularly insightful. I ended up learning about a wider range of experiences and ideas than was usual and in more depth. Three practical skills emerge:

  • Concise follow up emails

  • Active listening 

  • Asking good questions

Concise emails: At least 3 guests responded to follow-ups once the initial email had faded. The hit rate on well-worded concise (cold) emails is higher than you might think.

Active Listening: To hold good conversations, you need to truly listen to what the person is saying, process that with knowledge you have or you’ve heard earlier and formulate the next point. I think “active listening” covers this point, but it’s about absorbing what the person is saying or trying to say, combining it with other information and formulating something new from this.

Good questions: This leads into being able to ask good questions. For many, the more specific or detailed you can go then the better. I often end up succinctly summarising an idea I think my partner has and then asking them to develop it further and add anything I have left out or misunderstood. This show them how far your understanding has reached and gives them a little time to process what the answer should be. It also gives a general listener a brief baseline for the conversation.

The higher the level of prefaced information, the better the answer as they will not need to go over basics you’ve already expressed.

Avoid bland unanswerable or rote questions.  

Dinner parties or conversation with strangers in real life are somewhat different to podcasts. But another principle I like is to try and get your partner to be the best version of themselves and their argument. Rather than flat out deny or challenge, you want to tease out to the fullest what your partner is expressing even if - and perhaps even more so - if you think you disagree.

(For dinner parties, I like to try and find out the things or areas my partner knows that I know nothing about. Even better if it’s a secret. And if you are up to it, diving into a deeper topic, not simply a shallow one. You can pick upon the internet these type of questions (or books eg Gregory Stock questions, Amazon link ):  Would you rather lose a hand or all access to telecommunication devices? Rather live in the greatest city in the world, or a remote beautiful town? Whose reputation would you destroy? ….)

If a guest, if you can find out about a hobby/cultural interest and ask you often find a revealing answer.

With a stranger on a podcast, try and make your introduction sincere and ask a challenging/insightful question first. Typically, I find after 10 or so minutes, the guest will know by then if you’ve done your research and if you are genuinely interested in what you they have to say. This then makes it fun for everyone.

More in the newsletters sign up or check out below:

43 Things they should teach more at school

As I recently turned 43, I reflect:

43 Things they should teach more at school 

  1. What is the colour of love 

  2. What is the sound of friendship, how it echoes, breaks and chimes over years 

  3. How to be curious, open-minded and have the strength but flexibility of bamboo blowing in the wind

  4. To touch 

  5. What investing means and how to manage a budget 

  6. How to write to a politician, a CEO, a lover, and on the death of your mother/father 

  7. How to roast a chicken, steam a fish and cook mushroom risotto 

  8. How to unblock a sink, repair a washing machine, iron shirts 

  9. How to change a nappy, burp a baby, function on little sleep

  10. Meditate 

  11. Be happy in your body 

  12. Interview people 

  13. Meaningful conversation with strangers

  14. Travel well

  15. How to inspire people to be the best version of themselves 

  16. How to know when is enough 

  17. How insurance works 

  18. Persistence, stamina, grit; grace under pressure

  19. How to assess and choose  good friends, good team mates, good people

  20. Be a good friend

  21. Make the most of a dinner party

  22. How to listen 

  23. How to negotiate

  24. How to manage time, schedules

  25. How to work in flow

  26. How to be sad and not let it destroy you; also death and grief

  27. Empathy; what thinking through the lens of disability and other minories can show

  28. How to spot scammers

  29. How to speak to an audience 

  30. How to change a tire

  31. How to de-escalate tension with words and empathy

  32. How to start a business 

  33. How to find purpose; also how to do what you love, or love what you do

  34. How to understand culture; also bias

  35. How to sew, darn, and knit a scarf; also a good mix tape/list 

  36. Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should 

  37. When to stand, when to pivot when to let go

  38. How to be a mentor, how to find a mentor 

  39. Methods to manage email

  40. Running an UnConference, citizens assembly and other participatory events; or a good party. 

  41. Resist peer pressure, especially drink and similar

  42. Learning to learn, and the difference between testing for an exam and learning for life

  43. How to think for yourself; critical but humble, open-minded but principled